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Sunday, January 31, 2010

Tears, cry, weep

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"To weep is to make less the depth of grief." ~Shakespeare

Amazingly, science is beginning to confirm the accuracy of such statements. For the first time in history, researchers are verifying that crying is good for us because tears appear to reduce tensions, remove toxins, and increase the body's ability to heal itself. In short, scientists are drawing the conclusion that people who are able to cry may enjoy better physical and emotional health.

Tears are the liquid product of a process of crying to clean and lubricate the eyes. The word lacrimation (from L. Lacrima meaning Tear) (also spelled lachrymation) may also be used in a medical or literary sense to refer to crying. Strong emotions, such as sorrow or elation, may lead to crying. The process of yawning may also result in lacrimation. Although most land mammals have a lacrimation system to keep their eyes moist and in response to other stimuli, humans are the only mammal generally accepted to cry emotional tears.

The question of the function or origin of emotional tears remains open. Theories range from the simple, such as response to inflicted pain, to the more complex, including nonverbal communication in order to elicit "helping" behavior from others. Tears produced during emotional crying have a chemical composition which differs from other types of tear  they contain significantly greater quantities of hormones prolactin, adrenocorticotropic hormone, Leu-enkephalin and the elements potassium and manganese.

William H. Frey II, a biochemist, proposed that people feel "better" after crying, due to the elimination of hormones associated with stress, specifically adrenocorticotropic hormone. This, paired with increased mucosal secretion during crying, could lead to a theory that crying is a mechanism developed in humans to dispose of this stress hormone when levels grow too high.

Recent psychological theories of crying emphasize the relationship of crying to the experience of perceived helplessness. From this perspective, an underlying experience of helplessness can usually explain why people cry; for example, a person may cry after receiving surprisingly happy news, ostensibly because the person feels powerless or unable to influence what is happening.

It is a wonder, why do people cry? Surely tears must be good for us -- a way to calm the mind and cleanse the body. Yet studies show that crying sometimes makes people feel worse. Although many individuals report 'having a good cry', there are others for whom crying brings no sense of relief, release or resolution.  They may cry for long periods of time with no appreciable change in the way they feel; they may even say they feel worse or 'washed out'.  One might argue that if there is no change in their general situation, why should one expect them to feel better?  Even though tears may not bring back a loved one from the grave or restore a collapsed love affair, some cognitive (Nicols & Zax 1977, Bohart 1980) and biological changes (Van Haeringen 1981, Frey et al 1981) may nevertheless occur during crying. 

Gender and personality substantially and independently contribute to the variance in weeping frequency. Women cry more often and perceive weeping more as a coping style. Neuroticism proved to be considerably correlated with weeping frequency and weeping as a coping style, even after partialling out the effects of gender and age. Extraversion was correlated with relief and positive feelings after crying.

This is how one woman who has successfully overcome depression put it:  "You need to acknowledge your tears and your sadness and see them as a valid reaction to things that are going on in your life .. I don't necessarily feel better in that the feelings that led me to cry have gone.  I think it allows you to move on in some sense during the day you have a cry ... and I think that crying is probably really good for you because it means that you're forced to be in the moment and confront your feelings"

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Ultimately, crying delivers more a satisfying tour of the world of tears than any didactic answers. The language of weeping is spoken worldwide, even if it is understood in myriad ways.

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References:

Fears about tears? Why crying is good for you , Tears , Crying and tears , Crying: Is it Cathartic? , Crying: A Natural and Cultural History of Tears , Gender and individual differences in adult crying

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

You'll Never Find Another Love Like Mine

Lou Rawls

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You'll never find, as long as you live
Someone who loves you tender like I do
You'll never find, no matter where you search
Someone who cares about you the way I do
Whoa, I'm not bragging on myself, baby
But I'm the one who loves you
And there's no one else! No one else!

You'll never find, it'll take the end of all time
Someone to understand you like I do
You'll never find the rhythm, the rhyme
All the magic we shared, just us two
Whoa, I'm not trying to make you stay, baby
But I know some how, some day, some way

You are (you're gonna miss my lovin')
You're gonna miss my lovin' (you're gonna miss my lovin')
You're gonna miss my lovin' (you're gonna miss my lovin')
You're gonna miss, you're gonna miss my lo-o-ove
Late in the midnight hour, baby (you're gonna miss my lovin')
When it's cold outside (you're gonna miss my lovin')
You're gonna miss, you're gonna miss my lo-o-ove

You'll never find another love like mine
Someone who needs you like I do
You'll never see what you've found in me
You'll keep searching and searching your whole life through 
Whoa, I don't wish you no bad luck, baby
But there's no ifs and buts or maybe

(You're gonna) You're gonna miss (miss my lovin')
You're gonna miss my lovin' (you're gonna miss my lovin')
I know you're gonna my lovin' (you're gonna miss my lovin')
You're gonna miss, you're gonna miss my lo-o-ove
Whoa, oh, oh, oh, oh (you're gonna miss my lovin')                                                  
Late in the midnight hour, baby (you're gonna miss my lovin')
When it gets real cold outside (you're gonna miss my lovin')
I know, I know that you are gonna miss my lo-o-ove
Let me tell you that you're gonna miss my lovin'
Yes you will, baby (you're gonna miss my lovin')
When I'm long gone
I know, I know, I know that you are gonna miss   

 

 

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SWEET  HOME…..

FOOTNOTE:

Finally, back home… after sixteen days of battle. A battle of emotions, mental, physical, utmost patience, hypertension, tears, laughter… you name it, sure, it’s there…  Alhamdulillah, God was always there with me. Syukran.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

I see you…


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I see you, I see you… Walking through a dream… I see you
My light in darkness breathing hope of new life
Now I live through you and you through me.. Enchanting
I pray in my heart that this dream never ends
I see me through your eyes.. Living through life flying high
Your life shines the way into paradise
So I offer my life as a sacrifice
I live through your love
You teach me how to see All that's beautiful
My senses touch your world I never pictured
Now I give my hope to you.. I surrender
I pray in my heart that this world never ends
I see me through your eyes.. Living through life flying high
Your love shines the way into paradise
So I offer my life… I offer my love, for you
When my heart was never open (and my spirit never free)
To the world that you have shown me
But my eyes could not division
All the colors of love and of life ever more
Evermore…  (I see me through your eyes)
I see me through your eyes (Living through life flying high)
Flying high
Your love shines the way into paradise
So I offer my life as a sacrifice
And live through your love… And live through your life
I see you, I see you

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Avatar the movie…..

What can I say??  jaw-dropping, non-blinking eyes (as much as I could) the entire two plus hours…  amazing, amazing movie… the effects was mesmerizing… don’t know which is fiction and which is real… brilliant work of art… awesome…

standing ovation

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most deserving!!

I LOVE IT…..

Saturday, January 9, 2010

A very wise story!

For all men to note & all ladies to know........

Ludwig van Beethoven - Symphony No. 3 in E-flat Major (Eroica)
   
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king arthur8 Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

king arthur2 The question?...What do women really want?  Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. king arthur4

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged. the witch

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first ...
The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur's closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life.

He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden; but Sir Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. King-Arthur-and-the-Knights He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life and the preservation of the Round Table.

Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus:

“What a woman really wants, she answered, is to be in charge of her own life.” 

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared. And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Sir Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

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The honeymoon hour approached and Sir Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him.. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed.. The astounded Sir Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half. king arthur7

Which would he prefer? Beautiful during the day....or night? 

Sir Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments?

What would YOU do? What Sir Lancelot chose is below BUT....make YOUR choice before you read on. OKAY?

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Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.. Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

Now....what is the moral to this story?

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The moral is.....
If you don't let a woman have her own way..... 
                                                   Things are going to get ugly !
 

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           ~ Just a story folks…

 

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Friday, January 8, 2010

Could have been…

Tell me who’s to blame
I thought we were on our way
I never dream that all my life
That love could feel that way
Did we move to slow ?
Or was it just too soon?
But there I go, looking back once more
Like a fool I still imagine what we… could have been
Could it be we had a chance if we just try again?
eyeIt’s the hardest thing to face
It’s like never knowing how the story ever ends
And I’ll never know just what we could have been…
So I’ll just say it’s meant to be, and this is fate and destiny
but tell me how do I explain this into heart in me
though I write this words I know I’ll carry on
But I love you still, probably always will
Nothing can ever be so beautiful, as we… could have been
If only love had led you back into my arms again
It’s the hardest thing to know that I…
Will never love again like we did then…
And to never know just what we could have been
Then maybe another chance, in some other space and time
In some other circumstance but when you feel the same 
drop of water1 Oh how wonderful this world would be
To face it with you here with me
Only heaven knows maybe then we’ll see…
What we could have been
Could it be we had a chance if we just try again?
It’s the hardest thing…
It’s like never knowing how the story is going to end
And we’ll never know just what we… oh… what we could have been…baby…
if love could have led you back into my arms again
It’s the hardest thing to know that I..
Will never love again like we did then.. oh no…
Never again…
And we’ll never know just what we could have been…

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If children live with…

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I first came across this poem while managing a play centre for children between six months to seven years old back in 2005. I copied it, and kept it, but misplaced.. (oh!! it’s there somewhere in the piles of books) it. I had no idea where to seek this, did not remember much except the “If children live with…”

However, it was my lucky streak when i found this book (it was the last piece) on the shelves of a book store… and grab it I did!! As what many comments you’d find here on the web itself, the poem, even though written just to meet up with the authors ~ Dorothy Nolte deadline for her column, has a wisdom that many would agree to.

I’m sharing this for the benefit of the young parents, as a gentle reminder to the seasoned parents and to individuals in understanding another persons character (the ‘what could have been the problem’ factor)…

CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE

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Thursday, January 7, 2010

Dream a little dream of me…

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Stars shining bright above you baby Azri
Light breezes seem to whisper I love you
Birds singing in the sycamore tree
Dream a little dream of me
Say nighty night and kiss me
Just hold me tight and tell me you miss me
While I'm alone and blue as can be
Dream a little dream of me

 

Stars fading but I linger on dear
Still craving your kiss
I'm longing to linger till dawn dear
Just saying this
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you
Sweet dreams that leave all worries behind you
But in your dreams, whatever they be 

……. Dream a little dream of me

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babyStars fading but I linger on dear
Still craving your kiss
I'm longing to linger till dawn dear
Just saying this
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you
Sweet dreams that leave all worries far behind you
But in your dreams, whatever they be
Dream a little dream of me

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