do you imagine i will not love you???

No.

When it does happen, I will be sad but I will also smile through it and say ‘bon voyage’ and thank you for stopping by.

Love? It’s not ours to own or keep but to experience and cherish. When love comes residing, you’re the luckiest person to be bestowed with it. Enjoy every moment. When love decides it’s time, nothing can stop it from leaving. The only thing you can do is to let go, allowing it to move on. Love truly is a mysterious thing…

“If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with you, but then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don’t choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.”

“Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying.

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.”

LOVE ANYWAY…

Why did you?

As I read my mails this morning, my eyes locked onto a caption. (this is from one site that seems to shadow my emotions… very interesting as to how it can be) It says, “After tragedy”. What I have gone through just hours before this posting, I consider it very much a tragedy. A lost. It upsets me, because another few hours prior to that I was laughing gaily upon some casual jesting. This took a round-a-bout turn and became nasty. Written words which was misinterpreted.

I find “interpretation” of what we write without the body language, without the verbal sound can be very damaging. It is very important to read carefully, probably over and over again plus staying very calm and clarify what we got out of it. After all, it was an unbalanced mode of communication.

I am moving on though. I am simply posting what I found under that caption on how to deal with a tragedy.

“In the first aftermath of a tragedy, victims experience numbness and shock. Shock gives way to tears, one of the very first stages of grief. All anyone can do is try to feel safe again on the most basic level.

• Hold each other.
• Don’t be afraid to ask for contact.
• Reach out and tell your loved ones that you do love them; don’t let it be taken for granted.
• Feel your fear. Be with it and allow it to be released naturally.
• Pray.
• Grieve with others if you can, alone if you must.

Numbness and tears lead to the second stage, in which powerful emotions rise to the surface, often after being buried for years or decades. Feelings of age and sorrow will erupt. You will feel deeply afraid in a way you have never experience before.

The third stage of suffering comes when you feel that you must take action, either to heal or to strike out against the attacker or to lend a hand to other victims.

Nothing alleviates suffering like reaching out to another person who is suffering. Go and help, be of service if only in the smallest way. Any gesture–whatever you feel safe to do–is a step toward healing.”

Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

Another advice is… be careful not to misinterpret what was written and jumping to conclusions. Instead of lashing out, clarify. After all, it is known that: 'No more sword to be feared than the learned pen' (read more from the link I attached) To quote it: “As beautiful and comforting as words can be, they can be (and often are) the tools of choice for people who wish to cause damage, instil hatred and inflict pain with the author’s vitriol. For example, I’m sure you’ve encountered at some point in your life some people who spewed venom against you and did so wilfully and unabashedly. They attempted to denigrate or hurt you with their words. And unfortunately, they often succeeded. You’re left shocked and dismayed, wondering, “How could they?”

With that said… I believe, I need to heal my wound and come out mended, hopefully reborn into a new me.

Never alone

 

 

May the angels protect you, trouble neglect you
And heaven accept you when its time to go home
May you always have plenty, the glass never empty
Know in your belly… You're never alone

 

May your tears come from laughing, you find friends worth having
With every year passing they mean more than gold 
May you win but stay humble, smile more than grumble
And know when you stumble… You're never alone

Never alone.. Never alone..
I'll be in every beat of your heart, when you face the unknown
Wherever you fly this isn't goodbye, my love will follow you, stay with you
Baby you're never alone

Well I have to be honest, as much as I wanted
I'm not gonna promise that the cold winds won't blow
So when hard times have found you and your fears surround you
Wrap my love around you… You're never alone

May the angels protect you, trouble neglect you
And heaven accept you when its time to go home
And when hard times have found you and your fears surround you
Wrap my love around you… You're never alone

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taking a chance on…

an advice…..

 

be brave…

when

taking a chance

 

 

“Love is made by two people, in different kinds of solitude.
It can be in a crowd, but in an oblivious crowd”

....Louis Aragon

 

Love is an instinct and hence beyond mind's control.
Love is an emotion and works always with motion....

When you love you should not say, "God is in my
heart" but rather, "I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love,
for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course...

The Charlie Schulz Philosophy

(This is marvelous!! Scroll thru slowly and read carefully to receive and enjoy full effect).

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them. Just read this straight through, and you'll get the point.

 

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.

How did you do?
The point is, only a handful of us remember the headliners of yesterday.
These are no second-rate achievers.
They are the best in their fields.
But the applause dies..
Awards tarnish..
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier?

The lesson:
The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money...or the most awards.
They simply are the ones who care the most.

 

'Don't worry about the world coming to an end today. It’s already tomorrow in Japan, New Zealand even Australia!'

''Be Yourself.

Everyone Else…

Is Taken!"

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me

by Erica Shea Liupaeter

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When tomorrow starts without me, and I’m not there to see,

If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me,

I wish so much you wouldn’t cry, the way you did today,

While thinking of the many things we didn’t get to say.

 

I know how much you love me, as much as I love you,

and each time that you think of me, I know you’ll miss me too.

But when tomorrow starts without me… please try to understand,

That an angel came and called my name and took me by the hand,

And said my place was ready in Heaven far above,

And that I’d have to leave behind, all those things I dearly love.

 

But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye,

for all my life, I’d always thought, I didn’t want to die.

I had so much to live for, so much yet to do,

it seemed almost impossible, that I was leaving you.

I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad,

I thought of all the love we shared, and all the fun we had.

If I could relive yesterday, just even for a while,

I’d say goodbye and kiss you, and maybe see you smile.

But then I fully realized, that could never be,

For emptiness and memories, would take the place of me.

and when I thought of worldly things, I might miss come tomorrow,

I thought of you… and when I did, my heart was filled with sorrow.

But when I walked through Heaven’s gates, I felt so much at home.

When God looked down and smiled at me, from his great golden throne.

He said,”This is eternity, and all I’ve promised you”.

“Today your life on Earth is past, and here it starts anew”

“I promise no tomorrow, but today will always last,

and since each day’s the same day, there’s no longing for the past”

“But you have been so faithful, so trusting and so true…

though there were times you did some things, you know you shouldn’t do'”.

“but you have been forgiven, and now at last… you’re free.”

 

So, won’t you take my hand now and share My life with Me.

So when tomorrow starts without me, don’t think we’re far apart,

For every time you think of me… I’m right here… in your heart.

old lady poem

 

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What do you see, nurses, what do you see?
What are you thinking when you're looking at me?
A crabby old woman, not very wise,
Uncertain of habit, with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles her food and makes no reply
When you say in a loud voice, "I do wish you'd try!"
Who seems not to notice the things that you do, and
Forever is losing a stocking or shoe.....
Who, resisting or not, lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding, the long day to fill....
Is that what you're thinking?
Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse; you're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of ten ....with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters, who love one another.
A young girl of sixteen, with wings on her feet,
Dreaming that soon now a lover she'll meet.
A bride soon at twenty -- my heart gives a leap,
Remembering the vows that I promised to keep.
At twenty-five now, I have young of my own,
Who need me to guide and a secure happy home.
A woman of thirty, my young now grown fast,
Bound to each other with ties that should last.
At forty, my young sons have grown and are gone,
But my man's beside me to see I don't mourn.
At fifty once more, babies play round my knee,
Again we know children, my loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead;
I look at the future, I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing young of their own,
And I think of the years and the love that I've known.
I'm now an old woman ...and nature is cruel;
'Tis jest to make old age look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles, grace and vigor depart,
There is now a stone where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass a young girl still dwells,
And now and again, my battered heart swells.
I remember the joys, I remember the pain,
And I'm loving and living life over again.
I think of the years ....all too few, gone too fast,
And accept the stark fact that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people, open and see,
Not a crabby old woman; look closer ...see ME!!

 

When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Dundee, Scotland, it was wrongly assumed that she had nothing left of any value.
But later, when the nurses were going through her meager possessions, they found this poem.
Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.

Remember this poem when you next meet an old person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within.

We will one day be there, too.

Journey in love…..

We were all born to love weren’t we? hmmm…  You open your eyes into this world and you shall experience love, almost immediately. It’s feelings nurtured from the first minute… LOVE.

Here, I am touching on the boy-girl love… LOVE itself is so subjective…

Love is when...   by Princess
Love is when... you can't stop thinking ‘bout them
when u see them or hear their name
your whole world lights up
when they smile u smile
when they laugh you laugh
when they cry you cry
you feel what they feel
when they never leave your mind
when u go to sleep smiling because
of something they said or did earlier that day
when you look at them everything turns right
when you touch them u get that feeling
what is love?
love is all of the above.

~ my experience… as a teenager; it’s only normal to be curious… I believe mine was built on a fairy tale; too much of fables plus too much of ‘Mills and Boons’ and later ‘Danielle Steel’ and the likes… wondering about a Prince Charming or the tall, dark and handsome…  somehow, it’s not like that at all… by the time I was a young adult… I was seriously confused and lost in love. I seek the true meaning of it. It’s just these past few years that I finally understood and fully accepted it…

~ true love is when you NEVER expect anything in return… give unconditionally and it will find it’s way to you… somehow.

 ”The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

 

Song Lyrics

               

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To love someone is to understand each other, to laugh together, to smile with your heart and to trust one another. One important thing is to let each other go if you can't do this.

Love is an act of endless forgiving - a tender look which becomes a habit. ~ Peter Ustinov

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. ~ Mignon McLaughlin

Child

When you were born into this world
Your mom and dad saw a dream fulfilled
Dream come true
The answer to their prayers
You were to them a special child
Gave 'em joy every time you smiled
Each time you cried
They're at your side to care

Child, you don't know  
You'll never know how far they'd go
To give you all their love can give 
To see you through and God it's true
They'd die for you, if they must, to see you live

How many seasons came and went
So many years have now been spent
For time ran fast
And now at last you're strong
Now what has gotten over you
You seem to hate your parents too
Do speak out your mind
Why do you find them wrong? 

And now your path has gone astray
Child you ain't sure what to do or say
You're so alone
No friends are on your side
And child you now break down in tears
Let them drive away your fears
Where must you go?
Their arms stay open wide

Child you don't know
You'll never know how far they'd go
To give you all their love can give
To see you through and God it's true
They'd die for you, if they must, to see you live

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The original was in Tagalog; Anak by Freddie Aguilar. It became a worldwide hit and was released in 56 countries and in more than 26 different foreign languages.

Every day is special

A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package: 'This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package..'
He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box. 'She got this the first time we went to New York , 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on, was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is it.
He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died.

He turned to me and said: 'Never save something for a special occasion - Every day in your life is a special occasion'.
I still think those words changed my life. 
Now I read more and clean less.
I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.
I spend more time with my family, and less at work.
I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through.
I no longer keep anything...
I use crystal glasses every day...
I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if I feel like it.
I don't save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to.

The words 'Someday...' and ' One Day...' are fading away from my dictionary.
If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now....
I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell.
I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends..

She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels.
I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food.
It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come..
Each day, each hour, each minute, is special.
Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one.

source: world wide web

Love her anyway…

Love Her ...when she sips on your coffee or tea. She only wants to make sure it tastes just right for you
Love Her...when she is jealous. Out of all the men she can have, she chose you
Love her...when she has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too. 
Love her...when her cooking is bad. She tries.
Love her...when she looks scary in the morning. She always fixes herself up again.
Love her...when she makes you watch corny love dramas while the sport is on.
She wants to share these moments with you.
Love her...when she asks if she looks fat. Your opinion counts, so tell her she's beautiful. 
Love her...when she looks beautiful. She's yours, so appreciate her.
Love her...when she spends hours to get ready. She only wants to look her best for you.
Love her...when she buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell her its what you've always wanted.
Love her...when she cries for absolutely nothing. Don't ask, tell her its going to be okay
Love her...when she suffers from PMS. Buy chocolate, rub her feet and just chat with her (trust me this works!)
Love her...when whatever you do is not pleasing. It happens and will pass
Love her...when she stains your clothes. You needed a new shirt anyway
Love her...when she argues. She only wants to make things right

All these things form part of a woman's character; 
woman are part of your life and should be treated as the queen
Take time to make her feel special in every way.

 

On the other hand…

   understand him..

                                                   humorous but true >>  

 

it’s all about meeting half way and merging of two characters, heart and soul…

source: world wide web

Sebuah Renungan Untuk Suami Isteri

Wahai SUAMI renungkanlah 
Pernikahan atau perkahwinan menyingkap tabir rahsia
Isteri yang kamu nikahi tidaklah semulia Khadijah
Tidaklah setaqwa Aisyah
Tidaklah setabah Fatimah
Justeru,
Isterimu hanyalah wanita akhir zaman yang punya cita-cita menjadi solehah..
Pernikahan atau perkahwinan mengajar kita kewajiban bersama
Isteri menjadi tanah, kamu langit penaungnya
Isteri ladang tanaman, kamu pemagarnya
Isteri kiasan ternakan, kamu gembalanya
Isteri adalah murid, kamu mursyidnya
Isteri bagaikan anak kecil, kamu tempat bermanjanya
Saat isteri menjadi madu, kamu teguklah sepuasnya
Ketika isteri menjadi racun, kamulah penawar bisanya
Seandai isteri tulang yang bengkok, berhatilah meluruskannya
Pernikahan atau perkahwinan menginsafkan kita, perlunya iman dan taqwa
Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan redho ALLAH s.w.t kerana
Memiliki isteri yang tak sehebat mana
Justeru Kamu akan tersentak dari alpa
Kamu bukanlah Rasulullah s.a.w
Pun bukanlah Sayyidina Ali Karamallahhuwajhah
Cuma suami akhir zaman yang berusaha menjadi SOLEH.
Amin.

Wahai ISTERI pula renungkanlah
Pernikahan atau perkahwinan membuka tabir rahsia
Suami yang menikahi kamu tidaklah semulia Muhammad s.a.w.
Tidaklah setaqwa Ibrahim
Tidak setabah Ayyub
Tidak segagah Musa
Apalagi setampan Yusuf
Justeru
Suamimu hanyalah lelaki akhir zamanyang punya cita-cita membangun keturunan yang soleh
Pernikahan atau perkahwinan mengajar kita kewajiban bersama
Suami menjadi pelindung, kamu penghuninya 
Suami nakhoda kapal, kamu pengemudinya
Suami bagaikan pelakon yang nakal, kamu adalah penonton kenakalannya
Saat suami menjadi raja kamu nikmati anggur singgahsananya
Ketika suami menjadi bisa, kamulah penawar ubatnya
Seandainya suami bengis lagi lancang, sabarlah memperingatkannya
Pernikahan ataupun perkahwinan mengajarkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa
Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan redho ALLAH s.w.t. kerana
Memilik suami yang tak segagah mana..
Justeru Kamu akan tersentak dari alpa
Kamu bukanlah Khadijah yang begitu sempurna di dalam menjaga
Bukanlah Hajar yang begitu setia dalam sengsara
Cuma wanita akhir zaman yang berusaha menjadi SOLEHAH
Amin.
 Justeru itu wahai SUAMI dan ISTERI
Jangan menuntut terlalu tinggi
Seandainya diri sendiri jelas tidak berupaya
SUAMI dan ISTERI ingatlah:
Mengapa mendambakan isteri sehebat Khadijah
Andai diri tidak semulia Rasulullah s.a.w.
Tidak perlu isteri secantik Balqis
Andai diri tidak sehebat Sulaiman
Mengapa mengharapkan suami setampanYusuf
Seandai kasih tak setulus Zulaikha
Tidak perlu mencari suami seteguh Ibrahim
Andai diri tidak sekuat Hajar dan Sarah….

      

Came in my mail… sebuah peringatan buat mereka yang bergelar suami isteri….