As I read my mails this morning, my eyes locked onto a caption. (this is from one site that seems to shadow my emotions… very interesting as to how it can be) It says, “After tragedy”. What I have gone through just hours before this posting, I consider it very much a tragedy. A lost. It upsets me, because another few hours prior to that I was laughing gaily upon some casual jesting. This took a round-a-bout turn and became nasty. Written words which was misinterpreted. 
I find “interpretation” of what we write without the body language, without the verbal sound can be very damaging. It is very important to read carefully, probably over and over again plus staying very calm and clarify what we got out of it. After all, it was an unbalanced mode of communication.
I am moving on though. I am simply posting what I found under that caption on how to deal with a tragedy.
“In the first aftermath of a tragedy, victims experience numbness and shock. Shock gives way to tears, one of the very first stages of grief. All anyone can do is try to feel safe again on the most basic level.
- Hold each other.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for contact.
- Reach out and tell your loved ones that you do love them; don’t let it be taken for granted.
- Feel your fear. Be with it and allow it to be released naturally.
- Pray.
- Grieve with others if you can, alone if you must.
Numbness and tears lead to the second stage, in which powerful emotions rise to the surface, often after being buried for years or decades. Feelings of age and sorrow will erupt. You will feel deeply afraid in a way you have never experience before.
The third stage of suffering comes when you feel that you must take action, either to heal or to strike out against the attacker or to lend a hand to other victims.
Nothing alleviates suffering like reaching out to another person who is suffering. Go and help, be of service if only in the smallest way. Any gesture–whatever you feel safe to do–is a step toward healing.”
Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).
Another advice is… be careful not to misinterpret what was written and jumping to conclusions. Instead of lashing out, clarify. After all, it is known that: 'No more sword to be feared than the learned pen' (read more from the link I attached) To quote it: “As beautiful and comforting as words can be, they can be (and often are) the tools of choice for people who wish to cause damage, instil hatred and inflict pain with the author’s vitriol. For example, I’m sure you’ve encountered at some point in your life some people who spewed venom against you and did so wilfully and unabashedly. They attempted to denigrate or hurt you with their words. And unfortunately, they often succeeded. You’re left shocked and dismayed, wondering, “How could they?”
With that said… I believe, I need to heal my wound and come out mended, hopefully reborn into a new me.
