Another interesting mail today… Frankly, I just love this quote.
“Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.
If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby.
If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home.
If you give her groceries, she’ll give you a meal.
If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart.
She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap,
be ready………..
to receive a ton of shit!”
What’s that?? Bulls eye??? aye! aye!
As I read my mails this morning, my eyes locked onto a caption. (this is from one site that seems to shadow my emotions… very interesting as to how it can be) It says, “After tragedy”. What I have gone through just hours before this posting, I consider it very much a tragedy. A lost. It upsets me, because another few hours prior to that I was laughing gaily upon some casual jesting. This took a round-a-bout turn and became nasty. Written words which was misinterpreted. 
I find “interpretation” of what we write without the body language, without the verbal sound can be very damaging. It is very important to read carefully, probably over and over again plus staying very calm and clarify what we got out of it. After all, it was an unbalanced mode of communication.
I am moving on though. I am simply posting what I found under that caption on how to deal with a tragedy.
“In the first aftermath of a tragedy, victims experience numbness and shock. Shock gives way to tears, one of the very first stages of grief. All anyone can do is try to feel safe again on the most basic level.
Numbness and tears lead to the second stage, in which powerful emotions rise to the surface, often after being buried for years or decades. Feelings of age and sorrow will erupt. You will feel deeply afraid in a way you have never experience before.
The third stage of suffering comes when you feel that you must take action, either to heal or to strike out against the attacker or to lend a hand to other victims.
Nothing alleviates suffering like reaching out to another person who is suffering. Go and help, be of service if only in the smallest way. Any gesture–whatever you feel safe to do–is a step toward healing.”
Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).
Another advice is… be careful not to misinterpret what was written and jumping to conclusions. Instead of lashing out, clarify. After all, it is known that: 'No more sword to be feared than the learned pen' (read more from the link I attached) To quote it: “As beautiful and comforting as words can be, they can be (and often are) the tools of choice for people who wish to cause damage, instil hatred and inflict pain with the author’s vitriol. For example, I’m sure you’ve encountered at some point in your life some people who spewed venom against you and did so wilfully and unabashedly. They attempted to denigrate or hurt you with their words. And unfortunately, they often succeeded. You’re left shocked and dismayed, wondering, “How could they?”
With that said… I believe, I need to heal my wound and come out mended, hopefully reborn into a new me.
… is VERY DANGEROUS!
I’ve gotten news from a dear friend living in India, that his father-in-law of less than four months had died of an accident. I was shocked! The reason of his sudden demise, to be derailed while crossing a railway track. Oh! He was careful, but his slipper gotten stuck and he went back for it, realizing moments later a train coming close and he suddenly froze ~ according to a witness. The train just derailed him and that was it. *Rest in peace, God bless his soul… and condolence to his family…*
This is not a matter to be taken lightly… NEVER! NEVER!! cross anywhere on a rail track. They have special crossings which is safe. Please…
I only wish that we adults remind each other and educate the young ones of the danger.
“Trains produce enormous amounts of wind turbulence. This slipstream is so powerful that it can drag you under the wheels of the train if you are standing next to the track or too close to the platform edge. Modern trains are deceptively silent – and extremely fast. A train travelling at 125 mph takes only 7 seconds to travel a quarter of a mile. It is never safe to take a short cut across the tracks. Where electricity is provided on the rail, there is a third rail running along the railway line. This third rail looks like a normal rail but it is actually a power line. The electricity is so strong that if you touch the rail or step on it, you will stick to it like glue and won’t be able to get off.” - Trackoff
